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1:15:00अध्याय 1: dangerous to have and to live in this reinforcing loop when we are not in a situation that our lives, that our existence is in danger. 300s · Speaker 1
dangerous to have and to live in this reinforcing loop when we are not in a situation that our lives, that our existence is in danger. So it's really important when we are dealing with these kind of situations. that we are not observing the…
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1:20:00अध्याय 2: Ask inquiry questions, we are understanding their thinking and reasoning. 115s · Speaker 2
Ask inquiry questions, we are understanding their thinking and reasoning. When we are asking advocacy questions, you're making your own thinking and reasoning visible to others. We're just signaling again and saying, my position, my thinkin…
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1:21:55अध्याय 3: Either put number one or number two. 304s · Speaker 1
Either put number one or number two. I love the division among numbers. Sahra, you were the first person who put two in the chat. Are you able to unmute yourself and tell us why do you think it's the second one? So I think naive itself mean…
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1:26:59अध्याय 4: and teaching three other sessions. 271s · Speaker 1
and teaching three other sessions. I prepared, I woke up early, prepared for the session, went on a walk, and I want to come and show up in this session fully active and engaging. But no, she doesn't have her camera on. So it receives it as…
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1:31:31अध्याय 5: are you late? 134s · Speaker 2
are you late? Then the truth trigger gets activated or the person that comes our way or our identity gets triggered. And our amygdala thinks that this is an existential crisis and it needs to do something about it. We either have to fight t…
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1:33:47
uh so for me i just think i think in a bigger picture point of view not the immediate actions that i need to take it's like like two years or three years down the line uh you know how will it actually affect me how is this particular situat…
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1:35:00
point to get myself out of that place and i think it really helps me in the long run not at that point of time essentially but in the longer and when i keep on thinking and putting myself into that place i think i i end up putting myself ou…
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1:37:00अध्याय 8: Javaria, please go ahead. 188s · Speaker 2
Javaria, please go ahead. Yeah, so I had this habit of really engaging in when I used to be triggered. Like if somebody has triggered me, I used to fight back. I used to be like, why, what, and ask questions. And that used to trigger me eve…
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1:40:09
no, no. I don't think I'm dealing with it very well then. So I prefer venting out. I don't like it. I don't like to hold it in. I will not vent it out to the person who's triggered me at the minute. But anybody who I can confide in, I make …
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1:41:13अध्याय 10: right? Elania, please go ahead. 117s · Speaker 6
right? Elania, please go ahead. Actually, I never felt like I could sit with the situation and bend it to somebody else. So I've often found myself getting out of the situation, being by myself for some time, but then being in spaces like a…
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1:43:13अध्याय 11: So when I have to deal with my triggers, I have this habit of going into this isolation mode or running out of that space completely. 300s · Speaker 1
So when I have to deal with my triggers, I have this habit of going into this isolation mode or running out of that space completely. Like avoid office. Like I think pretty recently I got really triggered. It was a mix of a couple of things…
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1:48:14
It was easier for me to process that entire thing and then come back. because it was a little bit of venting on one side, a little bit of analyzing from one point. It took a while, but I sort of got there. I love it. I love this. I think th…
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1:53:16
I do find journaling helping me a lot, especially if it's not too... Yeah, I think journaling has saved my life a lot, actually. I hope that you are able to find some unwalking. I agree with the walking. I feel like I'm shedding the negativ…
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1:54:57अध्याय 14: Thank you. 76s · Speaker 1
Thank you. Thank you, everyone, for sharing. So actually, I could relate with Shaista when she was saying that journaling helps. I just want to add that what I do is I kind of classify that journaling into two parts. One is where I rant abo…
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1:56:15अध्याय 15: I absolutely love that example. 304s · Speaker 2
I absolutely love that example. Just a few weeks ago when I had to rush to go home, as I was on the plane, I was like, I'm really grateful that I could just go online and buy a plane ticket. And the plane tickets between US and Iraq are not…
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2:01:19अध्याय 16: defend the position that we have. 78s · Speaker 1
defend the position that we have. For example, but don't you think that sometimes dogs smell? As a cat person, dogs smell, but cats don't really smell that much. What if you don't have time to walk the dog? Do you think that dogs require mo…
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2:02:38अध्याय 17: Great. I'm going to go ahead and reshare my screen and go through the instructions. 301s · Speaker 2
Great. I'm going to go ahead and reshare my screen and go through the instructions. So we are doing an exercise right now. It is called the hot button exercise. button exercise is usually done by three people. That means the group will have…
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2:07:40अध्याय 18: is the position taker coming from. 320s · Speaker 1
is the position taker coming from. Then the buzzer listens out to see if these questions are advocacy questions or inquiry questions. If they're inquiry questions, the questions are to understand where is this person coming from, since when…
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2:13:00अध्याय 19: who were inquirers, how was it? 119s · Speaker 2
who were inquirers, how was it? Radia, were you an inquirer? Sorry, I was a point taker. Okay. Then let's go. Come back to the anchors. And Nazreen, please go ahead. It's nice to hear from you again. Hi, Shan. Thank you. So, Shan, I was the…
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2:15:00
in favor of the thing so that is why we ended up just and she realized it when we were sent back to the main room that she started like very you know she was very powerfully arguing against it but unfortunately it ended up with her arguing …
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2:17:45अध्याय 21: shafi so Yes, we have buzzed at that point. 105s · Speaker 8
shafi so Yes, we have buzzed at that point. So we made Ipat understand that no, you have to not talk about, you know, she was giving the against answer, like a debate will be right. So we made her understand. It is not a kind of debate. It …
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2:19:31अध्याय 22: Yeah, I was the inquirer with Atiya being the position taker and Zenith being the buzzer. 303s · Speaker 7
Yeah, I was the inquirer with Atiya being the position taker and Zenith being the buzzer. Out of the three statements, the chosen statement was everyone should exercise regularly and Atiya was against it because she had the belief about it'…
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2:24:35
between men and women which was not necessary as a inquiry to take at all yeah so if we're talking about business benefit and I thought that I could position it around the conversation of business benefit is brought by men or women however …
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2:29:36अध्याय 24: And so on. 70s · Speaker 2
And so on. Yes. understood yeah yeah oh that's right that's blown my mind sorry yeah i know i know once you were explaining i'm like i need to push back i need to make sure that this yeah yeah thank you for sharing i'm so glad you shared sh…
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2:30:46अध्याय 25: question you asked? 129s · Speaker 3
question you asked? I don't actually, I'm really sorry. That's fine. I was just wondering if we remembered so we can all learn from it. No worries. Thank you so much. Atiyah, please go ahead. So in our group, I think we started like three s…
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2:32:57
So I think I just wanted to share the takeaway from this exercise, which I understood is like whenever we encounter any disagreement, I think our nervous system automatically like take that position that we want to defend our point. So when…
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2:34:02अध्याय 27: I love it. 301s · Speaker 3
I love it. Thank you so much. You just sell your brain. This is not a dangerous territory. We're just trying to understand their counterpart. Don't worry. Don't get activated. Noreen, please go ahead. So I think most of my points have alrea…
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2:39:03अध्याय 28: So... Unbalanced. 300s · Speaker 1
So... Unbalanced. Yeah, like unbalanced, yes. Yeah, well, the American diplomats and diplomats in general are trained not to answer questions. this is a really difficult situation, right? They're really well trained to dodge any questions a…
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2:44:03
And then, so in such situations, what you spoke about him, putting him in a position of father and then asking, what if your daughter... would be there etc etc i think role model effect we can also use some examples like there have been mul…
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2:45:35अध्याय 30: Yeah, so I wanted to reiterate what Atiya said. 180s · Speaker 3
Yeah, so I wanted to reiterate what Atiya said. While I was in the session, my first thought was that when I was hearing the question, my first thought was like, is it advocating or is it inquiring? So for that, I was buzzing a lot. So I wa…
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2:48:36अध्याय 31: Thank you so much, Sian. 70s · Speaker 2
Thank you so much, Sian. And for those, I think we can all show our gratitude to Sian, who has been such an amazing facilitator and over four weeks this past month with you through the negotiation module for two forwards. We know it's such …
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2:49:49
uh i wanted to say something so this heart that i have made and it was actually a mindful exercise that i was doing so i have written the you know all positive affirmations of words around it and so this is something that i have done i will…