Session 2 Audio only
Kapitel
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We all have a deep desire for a close connection with another person. This is one of our most fundamental human needs. But a close connection in marriage will only be achieved where there's good communication. Nicky and I had been dating fo…
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I, meanwhile, was speaking from a public phone box in the street. And I was having to shove money into the box with his... queue of other students forming outside and occasionally tapping their money on the glass if they thought that I was …
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3:06Kapitel 3: Or, it meant so much to me when you spent time listening to me about that difficult time at work. 156s · Speaker 4
Or, it meant so much to me when you spent time listening to me about that difficult time at work. Or, I'm feeling frightened that we're not going to be able to pay off our debt. Or, I need you to tell me that I'm doing okay. And that's when…
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Now, we're not saying this always has to be deep emotional stuff. And for some people, if they know that whenever their partner wants to talk, it's going to be intense, they'll avoid conversation. But unless we tell each other what's going …
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8:34Kapitel 5: emotions. 77s · Speaker 1
emotions. It's designed to help you recognize what you're feeling at different times and in different situations throughout the day. It will take courage to begin to articulate these feelings to your partner if you're not used to communicat…
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I think, a deeper understanding of what it takes to stay connected. When we got back together... I resolved not to have a thought life. which was secret from Nick. In the past, I used to dwell on the negative aspects of our relationship but…
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10:57Kapitel 7: For me, at least, it requires more than time. 242s · Speaker 5
For me, at least, it requires more than time. It requires courage. So if you're married to someone who struggles to verbalize their feelings, they're likely to feel exposed and vulnerable when they first start to do so. So be sure to help t…
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15:00Kapitel 8: listening habits. 84s · Speaker 3
listening habits. And it's worth recognizing that most of us will fall into at least one of these. Well, some of us fall into a lot more. That's me. I have to be working on at least three most of the time. So, the first bad listening habit …
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For example, if one of you is sitting in front of the computer and your partner comes into the room to talk to you, it can be very difficult to concentrate on what they're saying. For others of us, if we're in a room with a TV on, we're con…
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Or, oh, that reminds me of when I was 19 and went away traveling. And away they go on their own agenda. And you never get the chance to finish your story. They've totally hijacked the conversation. And the fifth and probably most common bad…
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23:39Kapitel 11: Now, don't assume you know everything. 225s · Speaker 2
Now, don't assume you know everything. Give your partner time and space to talk about the issue that they've raised. In a moment, we're going to get you to practice those five steps. But first, we're going to try to give you an example of w…
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27:24Kapitel 12: Yes. The more you don't. 300s · Speaker 3
Yes. The more you don't... you don't sort of give recognition to it, it makes me feel more stressed because I think he hasn't a clue what it's going to take to get this house moved. So you're feeling stressed because you think I don't have …
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32:25Kapitel 13: And couples have said to us that as they practice using it, it's become more natural and even automatic. 119s · Speaker 1
And couples have said to us that as they practice using it, it's become more natural and even automatic. Now, while some of you found it hard to stop talking, others may have found it difficult to articulate your feelings. But if we fail to…