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Ahotsak

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   Kapitulua 1: The truth behind, how are you? 299s · Speaker 1

   The truth behind, how are you? It's incredibly common for autistic people to utterly despise this question. And at the same time, it's almost unavoidable in every social situation. So in this video, we'll look at the truth behind the questi…

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   Kapitulua 2: what the question is actually asking. 300s · Speaker 2

   what the question is actually asking. Do I give the two second answer, the 20 second answer, the two minute answer, the two hour answer? Do you actually want to hear me tell you how I am for the next two hours? Is that the purpose of this h…

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   Kapitulua 3: forth very often the exact words will always be the same every time in a way that the words themselves do not contain any significant meaning just like hi could be replaced with hello could be replaced with any other greeting the back and forth of the ritual of how are you I'm fine and you etc etc feels like just a social thing that you do and it's a little contained thing by itself. 67s · Speaker 1

   forth very often the exact words will always be the same every time in a way that the words themselves do not contain any significant meaning just like hi could be replaced with hello could be replaced with any other greeting the back and f…

4. 11:07

   Kapitulua 4: in life. So the third way that how are you is used is definitely by far the most complicated because even if you know that how are you is a question with a question mark waiting for a response of some kind trying to figure out what an appropriate response would be, what does the listener actually want to know, what are they actually asking, what are they expecting in this situation, is still a big unknown in that situation. 300s · Speaker 2

   in life. So the third way that how are you is used is definitely by far the most complicated because even if you know that how are you is a question with a question mark waiting for a response of some kind trying to figure out what an appro…

5. 16:08

   Kapitulua 5: actually I would really like to talk to you about it right now. 301s · Speaker 1

   actually I would really like to talk to you about it right now. And so maybe we actually sit down and they get the full answer. So even when someone is only asking me for a short answer, I can potentially invite them. would you like to hear…

6. 21:09

   Kapitulua 6: There is a type of sharing that is much, much, much more inappropriate. 285s · Speaker 2

   There is a type of sharing that is much, much, much more inappropriate. That is the trauma sharing. So there are some personal things that are just way too deep or too dark or too something for the actual situation. And when someone asks me…