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Nov 08, 2026 16:22
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Okay, cool.
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Maybe she closed it.
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
There are
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cats everywhere.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
There's four cats.
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Leave
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that up to the girls.
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Where would you like to be,
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Emily? Do
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you guys want to set the kitchen table?
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Everyone's
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going to have one of these.
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That's how we're going to keep it.
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
One
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closed.
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No
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object of curiosity.
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Time
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afterwards, girls.
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Come
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on then.
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Can
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I sleep, Becky?
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Welcome.
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What we said we would do is Emily has a
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go. Talk about what her
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experience has been,
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what her boundaries are,
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as appropriate.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I will help if necessary.
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I will kick off if need be,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
because it can be hard to be the first one to speak.
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Then Bethany has a go.
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And then Mum has a go.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And likewise,
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Bethany,
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if you are struggling with anything,
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you don't want to say it,
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you want me to say it.
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I will do that.
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We'll take notes.
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I didn't bring a pen,
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which is rather marvellous of me.
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Thank
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you very much.
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Blah,
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blah, blah.
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
It'll
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be phonal writing on here according to what
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it is I'm taking down.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Right,
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so we're not going to interrupt each other.
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We're not going to call each other names or say
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why we think somebody did something.
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We're not going to have a go and
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tell anybody that they're like X or Y.
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We're just going to say what happened and how it made us
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feel. We're
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not going to talk about changing anything today.
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And we're not going to ask for answers or coming to
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any kind of agreement.
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Anyone,
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me included,
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can ask for a pause if things are getting too difficult.
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And just because you're listening to what someone else
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is saying doesn't mean that you're agreeing with it.
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You are just giving them space to talk.
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Now, and likewise,
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acknowledging the impact that something has had on
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someone doesn't mean that you accept everything that they said.
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That goes for everyone here.
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The experience is real,
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even if details are misremembered or not complete.
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Okay?
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Everyone all right with that?
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Are you okay with that,
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Sophie?
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Right.
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Emily,
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here's the notes that we had for you.
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Do you want to talk?
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Yeah.
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Speaker 5 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
No?
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I don't want to do first.
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
What
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
don't you want to do?
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I don't want to go first.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
You don't want to go first?
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Okay,
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Bethany, do you want to go first?
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Because this will be awkward if nobody
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goes first,
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or at least gives me permission to speak from their notes.
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Emily,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
can I speak from your notes?
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Speaker 5 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Okay.
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Speaker 6 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Okay,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I'll do that.
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Will you be able to fill in if I start?
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i get that it's hard to start maybe
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
okay so um
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things that emily wanted to say there may well be more
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but these are the things that we've got a note of emily
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
feels that mum often decides what somebody
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means or why they acted
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then responds to her explanation that she has invented
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instead of asking and listening.
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When that happens and
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Emily tries to correct an assumption,
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the conversation often becomes about mum's
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annoyance,
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tone or mum feeling attacked.
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When Emily mumbles
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or leaves,
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It usually means that she can't find the words and doesn't
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believe that the conversation can progress.
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It is not intended as a punishment.
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One thing that
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Emily needs is that it is acknowledged when
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those assumptions have been made,
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an apology for doing so,
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and genuine space without being required
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to reassure you.
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to say what it is she wants to say and give any explanation that
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she wants to give without
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mum getting ahead of what it is she's actually
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saying.
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Specific
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objections about a particular thing that's happened or a circumstance are
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sometimes turned into a general
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criticism of Emily,
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such as always a no from Emily.
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She also wanted to say,
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because I am the parent,
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or it is my house,
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is not by itself an adequate answer to a reasonable boundary
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or request for compromise.
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She wants to make it clear
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that this is a long -standing pattern,
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not a single incident.
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One apology can't
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undo it,
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and Emily doesn't want...
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forgiveness or putting things right discussed or expected now
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another thing that Emily wanted
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to another point Emily wanted to make is that she's choosing
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not to tolerate the behavior whether she
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could or not she feels that she shouldn't have to teach an adult
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why it's hurtful or take responsibility for repairing the relationship
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while the behavior is not acknowledged
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
So that's what was in your notes.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Do you have anything to add to that?
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Not really.
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All I
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can think of.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Okay.
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Bethany,
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do you want to go?
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
That's
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why you have notes to remind you of the things that you want to
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do.
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Why
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
not go through the points that you have and then add to them?
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Because there are a couple of other things that you said you would remember that
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we have nonetheless written down.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Do you want me to
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start?
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Okay.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Why don't I do the same that I did for Emily to begin with and
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then I'll fill in with the stuff that
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we talked about and then you can expand on it if you want to.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Sorry?
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I don't like talking.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
You do not like talking.
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I'm going to put an ear ball in so that I can
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hear you because you're both quite muttery.
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personal sound amplifier yes in no way a hearing aid personal
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sound amplifier oh god
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now i can hear everything nonetheless
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it
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does mean i am now likely to be able to hear you when you speak which can only be a good
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thing okay
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so i think
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These are very much in no particular order.
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Bethany experienced
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a conversation that you had recently in the car as,
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I miss you and want things to go back,
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but if you don't say yes,
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I might give up and move to Birmingham.
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That was the message that...
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That was the message that Bethany took from it.
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She's not claiming those were your exact words,
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but that's what she remembered when she got back and got
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out of the car.
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I'll explain that later when it's my turn.
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She doesn't want to experience
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pressure to return to previous living arrangements or to
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keep discussing it until it's agreed.
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She wants me present
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for difficult conversations.
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and she feels that support that she needs,
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not something that she should feel bad about asking for.
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Her reasons
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overlap with Emily's,
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but are her own.
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We'll
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jump here,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
actually, because some of this is for you to fill in if you want to.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
So a couple of things that you mentioned earlier when we've gone
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through this.
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talked about it.
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You said you get anxious before coming here and
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you don't like it.
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Something
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else that particularly upsets
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or angers you is everything being
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related back to sometimes autistic people
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or people with ADHD are like X and
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Y putting you into a box.
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based on a bunch of labels rather than knowing you.
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Okay?
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And sometimes
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
those things aren't even true,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
although I don't think that's the main point,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
is it?
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
The point, even if it is true,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
is Bethany is Bethany.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
She's not a walking
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
set of ADHD or autism symptoms.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Ditto,
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Speaker 6 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Emily.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Bethany also feels that her experiences get
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
invalidated with counterexamples from other people.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
A recent instance of
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
that would be when she was in a real state about going into
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
school and you told
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
her that...
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
She's actually lucky because a friend of yours,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
the daughter of a friend of yours.
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Speaker 7 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
That's not quite right.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Because we were in the car driving to school and
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I was crying because I did not want to go to school.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And then mum was talking about her
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
friend's child who has anger issues
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
and gets pulled off and fights with her mum and stuff.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Yes.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Yeah.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I don't know who that is.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And you don't want your experiences compared to third
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
parties who may or may not have been through something similar.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Your experiences are your experiences.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
this,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I could not speak to specifics because you didn't at the time,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
so we didn't capture them.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
But you find that school mornings are very different.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
at my house to how things are done at mum's and you just like
18:55
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
it way better the way that we do things but i don't know what those specifics
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
are okay
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
mem i'm gonna come back
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
to you for a minute is there anything else you want to say if you want to you can talk to me and
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
mum can hear it oh
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
yeah i also like i forget like i forgot about like
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
i forgot about that bit before but also um but
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
also i have found
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
The same thing Beth has where
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I've
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
felt my experiences have also been invalidated,
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
like what's wrong now?
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Yeah, invalidated is the opposite,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
that's right.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Yeah.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Because, yeah,
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
like,
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
especially stuff that happened to both me
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
and Beth,
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
like,
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
the first time,
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
then,
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
like,
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
when it happened to me,
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
then it wasn't validated.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
But then when it happened to Beth,
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
it happened much less,
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
like...
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Okay.
20:28
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Actually,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
there was something we were going to...
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
There was another specific for Bethany,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
and I don't know if this feels the same for you,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Emily, but Bethany,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
what came up when we were sort of capturing things that
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
you wanted to talk about,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
that you're not responsible for where mum decides to
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
live, her work,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
her life structure,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
her happiness,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
or her relationship with Emily.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
It's not your fault,
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Speaker 8 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
not your problem.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Okay.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Does any of that resonate with you,
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Emily? I mean,
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
it is true.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Okay.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Have
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
a look at this line,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Bethany.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Just read this and see if there's anything else you want to say on the subject.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Because they're things you've brought up in general terms.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
It's one of those things,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
isn't it?
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
You'll remember absolutely everything that had ever crossed your mind an
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
hour from now on where I am.
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Always the way.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Are
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
you asking me to remind you of something?
22:28
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Well,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
literally, read the whole sentence.
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Do
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
you want to explain how any of those things have affected you?
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
No, I don't understand.
22:45
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Well,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
you've mentioned feeling like you're an afterthought sometimes,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
secondary to other priorities.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Don't worry about it.
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Speaker 5 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Don't push it.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
There's no...
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I'm not going to make anybody speak for the
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
whole time that we've allowed.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Okay.
23:33
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
You had something
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
to say before about missed appointments.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I'm
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
not going to put words in your mouth.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
If it's not coming to mind,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
we'll just leave it.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I mean,
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
missed.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
It
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
was an important appointment.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
It was a bit sad.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
It was like the ADHD referral or
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
something.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And then there was something to do with...
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
We're at cross purposes.
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
When you said missed appointment...
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Oh,
24:30
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
yeah.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
There was...
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I was...
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Like, there was those as well.
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
But you're talking about the one that I couldn't attend.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Please don't...
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
That's one of the things they don't like.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
You're trying to interpret for her.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
From what I'm getting,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
it's both.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
It's all of the above, it's not one or the other.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I don't know what you needed to do with your band and I
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
don't know why it was more important than the appointment.
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Okay.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Do either
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
of you guys have anything you want to say?
25:17
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
that car just blinded me.
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Okay.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Emily,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
have you got anything you want to add?
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Okay.
25:56
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Right.
25:57
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
In which case,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
it is Mum's turn.
25:59
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And that means I will be busily taking
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
notes.
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Same
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
courtesy, please,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
to Mum that she extended to you.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
You are listening.
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
for the record,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
a factual correction would be on whether or not something happened,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
not on which event someone is talking about.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
So, same applies to you guys.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Mum needs to clarify which event she was talking about.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Let her do that.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
OK.
26:36
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Right.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Go.
26:38
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Was
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
it supposed to be clearer after the
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
two of you had spoken what I've done?
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Because it isn't.
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I mean,
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
yeah, I've written some things down,
27:13
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
taking it on board,
27:14
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
but it's all rather vague.
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I feel as
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
if I would understand it better if there was a specific example
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
or two that I could remember happening.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Like what?
27:32
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Like an example for which one?
27:34
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Well, let me say,
27:36
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I'm just looking at Emily.
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
When I'm
27:41
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
struggling to understand Emily,
27:43
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
apparently I have a habit of,
27:48
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Emily said,
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
deciding.
27:52
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I think of it more as suggesting what someone
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
means to try and get the feedback because,
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
forgive me
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
for saying this,
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Emily, but when you talk sometimes.
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
There's not much information that comes across.
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
When you're stressed,
28:21
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
you mumble a lot,
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
and I can sometimes not make out what you've said properly,
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
and I have to ask you to repeat it,
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
which is probably annoying in itself.
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And then if I come back to
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
you with a response suggesting what I've understood your feelings to
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
be, I think of that as a starting
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
point for understanding,
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
not for you to take it as an assumption that I've got your feelings.
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
incorrect.
28:49
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Anyway,
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
without a specific
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
example,
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I'd be quite hard pushed to properly
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
understand
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
where that has come from.
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
What
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I can take away from it is that when you talk to me,
29:18
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I'm not responding in the way that you need me to.
29:21
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
However,
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I would need more information before I could start
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
to put that right.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I'm just looking for notes that were made at the time of
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
one such conversation just in order to help that along.
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I think that's going to dry off because I'm in effect.
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Let's
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
see,
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
sorry.
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Probably
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
some thinking time is good.
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
If
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
either of you have a sudden remembrance of something that you...
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
or you think of
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
a way to explain something that you couldn't before,
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
feel free to make some...
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
I did remember something.
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Yeah, well,
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
of course.
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Writing is...
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
it's okay.
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Speaker 2 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
You can write your
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
own notes that only you understand,
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
like one -word things.
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
My notes are things like
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
this have so many threads that it's hard to keep track
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
of all of them when you can only follow one at a time.
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Speaker 4 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
So
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
one instance of this was when
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
cornered Emily and
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
asked her why she was acting
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
like she was cross with you.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And you said,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
are you angry?
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Are you angry with me?
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And you said
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
it was okay if she was angry.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And then you said, I don't want you to come here and feel angry at me all the time.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
That would be awful.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And Emily said,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
well, it's not.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And it was a hanging sentence and she
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
was looking for more words.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And then you said, whatever,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
it's not anger.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And then Emily said,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
well, it's not necessarily that simple at this point.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And then Emily was stumbling a bit and trying to get
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
a sentence out.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
And you
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
said, all right, we'll leave it there.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
So she never did get to say what she wanted,
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
but also she never said it wasn't anger.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
But she
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
feels like that's the message that you went away with because she
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
wasn't able to get her sentence out.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
You supplied an explanation.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
You jumped in while she was trying to find words and
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
provided an explanation that she
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
wasn't comfortable with.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
She
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
never completed her thought.
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Speaker 1 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
Let's see if I've got anything else that was brought up.
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Speaker 3 (2026_11_08_13_40_48)
It
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was kind of how the conversation started.
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