Videtur solum
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Hey.
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Hello.
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Hey Mel,
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how are you going?
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Oh,
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I'm okay.
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How are you?
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Not too bad,
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not too bad for the time of day.
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I felt like I started the session last time the same way.
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Yeah.
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I'm like,
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okay, because it just sort of dropped my memory,
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which is so funny.
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So last time we were talking about the situation that
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you're trying to navigate at work.
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Yes.
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How is that going for you now?
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I've actually been reflecting on a few things that I said in that session.
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And I was thinking about how,
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I think there was an instance where I said,
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like,
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I think I used the words they're not on my level.
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And I think it was really not nice to say.
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And I didn't mean it in a way where...
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where, or maybe I was thinking that,
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I didn't mean it to say that in a way that I'm in a
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higher, like I'm more intellectual or whatever it is.
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No, that's,
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interestingly,
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that's not how I took that.
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And I just want to reassure you that these sessions are not about...
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you know, how you're portraying yourself or themselves or anything.
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There's no judgment there at all.
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And this is for you to process the whole situation.
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And I love the fact that you're self -reflective.
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That's really encouraging.
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So,
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you know, don't worry so much about that.
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I mean, you're obviously...
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coming from a different background so this is and that's how I
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took when you said they're not at my level yeah I took it from they're not coming from my perspective
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yes I'm sorry if I misunderstood you but that's how I interpret
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it yeah yeah no that's good I think it was just me more thinking oh no I hope I haven't
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a crumb across in that way to make it sound as though like I'm
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belittling someone or belittling them it's not at all in the case like that it's
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just it is a completely different perspective yeah um even if you did
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If that was your intention,
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there's no judgment here anyway.
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Yeah,
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yeah. No,
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it definitely wasn't.
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But what's happened since is that...
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So I mentioned to you,
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like, this manager sort of,
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I feel, is my manager is a bit sort of protective of her.
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She's going to call her up on her behaviours and all of this kind of stuff.
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And I've had her staff members come to me because they felt safe with me.
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Since then,
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I've actually had another staff member that...
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I'm just trying to think what day was she messaged me.
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I had a message.
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I can't remember,
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but it was sometime during the week.
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And it was after hours.
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So not in business hours,
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because her working hours are late.
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She needs to stay with the youth in the refuge.
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And she works like,
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you know, could be like eight till whatever.
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At night time,
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that is.
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So she works sort of after hours and she works weekends.
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So she messaged me saying,
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or emailed me saying,
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it was lovely to meet you.
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I would like to book a conversation with you.
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Like, can we please have a meeting?
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I would like it to remain confidential.
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you know,
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weekends work best for her.
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And I said,
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yeah, of course we can do that.
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And she said that I could delete the calendar
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invite afterwards,
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which made me think,
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wow, okay,
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it must be really serious if she's...
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thinking in the way by not leaving any trail behind that's
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where my thought is so it's obviously providing something in her like
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she's she's needed to get this out which is why she's contacted me there yeah um but
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she's that sort of scared
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in a way that she's telling me to delete it afterwards.
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So I basically emailed her back or messaged her back saying,
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of course, you know,
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I'll meet up with you.
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You know,
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how about like,
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obviously I'm at a workshop.
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Let's try to do this on Sunday at like 10 o 'clock or whatever.
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So tomorrow basically.
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So I don't work these hours,
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but I'm obviously,
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I go out of my way because I want to make sure that they're okay.
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And I know that's probably going out of my,
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I mean, it is going out of my boundaries at work.
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Absolutely is.
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But the problem is,
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I feel like,
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and I've always said this to my manager,
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I need to be flexible to meet these people where they are because they don't work,
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some of them don't work working hours.
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So if I need to like,
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you know, if I'm dosing off here or there,
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but they're making up for the hours on the weekends to do that,
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do you know what I mean?
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Or whatever it is,
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even if I'm doing my full hours or whatever,
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but also doing this other stuff and the thing is I have to do it.
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In a sense where,
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you know,
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I might tell my manager after,
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we'll see what happens after this conversation,
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what this lady wants to tell me and stuff like that.
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But I guess the putting me telling you that is that now I've actually had this other staff member
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come to me who doesn't report to me,
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who knows that she wants to tell me something that obviously sounds serious.
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And then I'm thinking in my head,
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I'm going to have to go now back to my manager.
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Probably afterwards.
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Again, we'll see what she brings up.
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If she wants me to say something,
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if she wants me to action something,
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I will absolutely do it.
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I'm going to be there for her so I can surely,
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you know,
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she can have someone listen to her,
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which is what she hasn't been having now.
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She doesn't have that now.
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She has a manager who's quite condescending,
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who uses those sort of belittling words and
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all that kind of stuff.
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So, yeah,
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so that's happened in the intro.
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Right.
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So we're getting lots and lots of facts and lots and lots of stuff that's happening.
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I'm just wondering what are the emotions that are coming up for
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you? Like,
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I mean, I feel like I was a little bit too quick to dismiss
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your concern about the language you use,
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about I'm on another level.
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Oh,
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no, you weren't.
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It's all right.
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It was just me actually needing to get that off my chest because I had reflected in that week.
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Right. That we didn't see each other.
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And then I just said,
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oh, no, I really didn't want it to come that way at all.
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Although sometimes I feel like I'm not part of,
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you know what I mean?
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Like there's sort of a distance between us.
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That's what I mean.
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I just wanted to reflect on that.
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It sounds,
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and I might be wrong,
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but it sounds like you don't feel like you're connecting with them
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as much as you'd like,
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like you're on the same page,
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you're on the same level.
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Well,
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in terms of the managers on...
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I guess my peers,
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people who are,
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you know,
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we are all on one level and we report to the same manager.
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I guess we've known each other for way longer
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than I have.
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So I'm kind of like the outsider who isn't from that industry.
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I've come in here,
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I'm learning sort of the ropes.
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but I'll always feel like an outsider because I feel like
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they also take into the fact that I'm younger than
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they are.
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Right.
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And,
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yeah,
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so...
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So you just sort of paused then and you sort of looked away and you thought about it and
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then you went, yeah.
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So what were you thinking in that moment before you went,
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yeah? I was thinking,
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oh,
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I just had the flash in my head of like...
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My manager having the interview,
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she had an interview with the...
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So the staff member,
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that's the peer,
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who all her staff are coming to me
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because I don't feel comfortable going to her.
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So let's call her...
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Let's call her Jazz.
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Okay.
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Jazz.
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She had to have an interview
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because she needed more staff.
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Okay.
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And my manager...
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was in on that interview with her and then they came into the room afterwards and they sort of discussed
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or critiqued the client and told me all
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about that and sort of like I guess told whoever was in the room afterwards you know what had happened and
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I was like how did it go and everything like that and I felt it was really harsh and
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critical that they you know the
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stuff that they sort of said about the candidate which really I
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don't think was relevant to
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you know,
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like making remarks about her appearance and stuff like that.
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So this was for a job interview?
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Yes.
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And in that flash instance,
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I don't know why,
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but my thought just went to the fact that my
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manager thinking that I'm probably judging her.
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Because I always feel like whenever
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they're talking about or judging or making funny comments about others,
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I feel like whilst no one's verbalising
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any of this whatsoever,
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there's always incidents where I feel like my managers
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eye me to see if I'm judging her and to watch my facial
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expression because she knows I would be like,
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that's really inappropriate.
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Okay,
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so you get the sense that they feel like you have a different standard?
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Yeah,
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and then,
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yeah.
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So that's...
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Work ethics. That's got to be...
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Is that a little bit challenging?
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It's challenging when you're needing to work with them all.
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And I'm thinking about the interview that I...
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Not the interview, the meeting that I'm having tomorrow with this lady who I'm
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going to try to,
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like, you know,
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again, we'll see what happens out of this.
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And then I'm thinking five steps forward.
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If I need to go to my manager,
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what she's going to say about this and how her reaction is going to be and the fact that she
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might be in that sort of mode of like
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stop raising problems to me,
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even though they're problems which she's intentionally,
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I feel like,
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like doesn't want to know about because I feel like she wants to live in
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a bubble when like this is really serious.
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So I'm sensing that there's some emotions
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like you're starting to get a little bit apprehensive.
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and where is this going to lead?
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Oh,
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I just think five steps ahead always.
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Yeah, having said that,
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it won't still stop me if I need to do that.
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No, I don't think it would, but the feeling is the feeling.
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Yeah,
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that's exactly right.
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The feeling is the feeling.
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I am feeling apprehensive about it.
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Not apprehensive about the meaning,
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about potential instances where I'm going to have this again.
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And I bring it up in the most factual terms that this is a situation
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here, you know.
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And I try and tell her the patterns of things that,
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you know, we can see this here and we can see this there and stuff.
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I feel like it's just probably from her side.
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Yeah,
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it's just like I used the analogy last week of the tightrope.
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It's like balancing that.
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So I'm predicting the balancing act again,
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basically.
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Okay.
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So how are you managing that?
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like in yourself like in my last session
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you were very much like and i don't think the fire is diminished but
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there was definitely that fire that passion to get this fixed to get this done to get something
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changed yeah and i don't think the fire is diminished yet i'm also
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hearing um a little bit of maybe not
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apprehension but that i've got to do this again like yeah
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yeah yeah well i i also think it's it's probably more of like um
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like what's she gonna say to me this
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time what's the excuse gonna be this time around and
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then a little bit of like hesitancy in me in like
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shit she's gonna think that I'm like unraveling all these freaking
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things which really should have been sorted out like before.
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They're minefields.
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That's what they are.
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They're minefields.
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They're minefields.
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That's how I visualise it.
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It's just come to me now.
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They're like potential minefields that have been undiscovered because it's
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just been a brush over.
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I like you really animated that then.
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Like this is the minefield and it's been brushed over.
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Yes.
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And it's like you're really...
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there's so many things that could go wrong with this.
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I'm like, is this going to be accepted in the way that I want it to be portrayed?
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I don't want to be looked at as a troublemaker.
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I want to be looked at as someone who's a problem solver.
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Which,
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the funny thing is,
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I think in a way she knows that.
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She knows I'm very solution -focused and very driven to get the best outcomes for
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everyone in this situation.
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I actually think the issue is with her hesitation
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or like...
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her limitations in her inability to have those conversations.
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And I feel like it's me managing her uncomfortability.
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Okay.
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That's what it is.
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Right.
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And that's the apprehension.
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Yeah.
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I'm happy to have the conversation where she...
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I just know how she's going to act in that.
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And I know she's going to look down and be like...
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I get your point.
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Or,
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you know what I mean?
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You feel that she's just going to give you a token.
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It will be the acknowledgement,
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but I think it's her way she responds.
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So I'm sure she'll go away.
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And if I say to her,
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we need to meet with this lady now,
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like we have to do it in the next two weeks,
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she will do it because I will hold her accountable to do it.
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And we will have those meetings.
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We've had it before in the past where people have said,
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well,
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I'm like, no, you need to hear this for yourself from your words.
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Because it's only when they hear it from their words can she take the seriousness of the situation,
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you know what I mean,
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as it is.
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I mean, she can get it from me,
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but it's never the same as when someone's telling you something to your face.
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Do you know what I mean?
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When it's coming from a staff member.
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For sure.
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You know, it's that other level.
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That emotional experience.
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Absolutely.
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Yeah.
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The verbatim from the person it's coming from.
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Yeah.
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So there's a lot.
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To me,
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it feels a little bit like it's just all happening and I'm just...
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You're not feeling overwhelmed by it all.
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Like, it does sound like you're juggling an awful lot.
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It feels like,
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honestly, like I have another assignment to do.
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Yeah?
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Wow.
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Like,
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seriously, it does.
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It feels like...
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So I had the other staff members come to me during Christmas time.
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Those two of them came to me about this issue.
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Midway through maybe March,
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there was another staff member complaining about some other
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stuff about her and whatever.
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And I've been talking with her about it.
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And these people are at different locations,
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so they're different refuges.
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And now another person's come to me who...
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You know,
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it's just sort of spaced out over nearly a span of a year,
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actually.
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Yeah, that's what I was going to say.
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This has been going on for quite a few months now.
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Yeah,
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or at least seven or eight months.
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So,
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yeah. So I can see it's taking a little bit of a toll.
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I just want things
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fast.
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You want things?
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fixed because people are.
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It just impacts time.
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It impacts resources on people.
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If you get turnover because of staff,
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because I deal with outcomes of
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clients or residents
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in the service,
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staff impact on client outcomes.
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If staff do not feel safe in their environment,
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it will have a knock -on effect.
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And I take that stuff really seriously.
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And I think you also take seriously that the
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staff members are safe.
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Yeah,
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absolutely.
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And they feel supported.
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Yeah.
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So it's that you have that really heightened awareness
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of justice.
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Yes.
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And saying this.
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And making sure people are heard.
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Absolutely they need to be heard.
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Yeah.
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Not just residents for their experiences.
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Staff experiences absolutely matter.
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You know,
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you can't have like a staff,
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you know,
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wide survey that they do of satisfaction of,
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you know, the organisation and then don't take that seriously.
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No, what's the point of doing?
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Exactly right.
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Yeah.
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And then wonder why your results are low,
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you know?
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Yeah.
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Hello.
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Let's have a look at what we actually did.
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What is this telling us?
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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So you're not a sort of tokenism,
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you're about...
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No, I'm like action,
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live action.
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Yeah.
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Well, you kind of remind me of an action figure.
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I'm like...
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Oh, well,
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you know,
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in a really good way,
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in a really good way.
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Like, you know,
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the superhero that comes in and,
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you know,
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there's a problem here.
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I want to help you fix this.
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I want to help protect people.
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I want this to be the best experience for all the stakeholders,
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not just our clients.
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And you're quite right.
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If the staff are happy,
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then they will create a much more calmer environment.
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They'll also be able to deal a lot better with your clients.
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Yes,
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that's right.
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So you took a really big sigh there.
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Because I just thought about the
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time.
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And like,
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I wish I could
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hurry it up.
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You know what I mean?
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I want to see stuff done like yesterday.
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Actually,
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it should have been done years ago.
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Do you know what I mean?
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Like having stuff done,
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it should have been done years ago.
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This stuff should have really been raised years ago.
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The fact that it hasn't,
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I've had to basically pick up all these pieces unexpectedly
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because they weren't addressed.
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Yeah.
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So, yeah.
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And I know that it can't happen
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fast.
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Which then is a bit annoying.
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Alright,
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so what is it like to sort of sit in that annoyance or frustration?
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I
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just want to keep moving.
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We don't have time to wait.
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So is it difficult
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to just sit?
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Yeah,
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yeah,
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it is.
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It is difficult because time is of the essence.
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Every minute,
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every day forward is like,
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you know,
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another minute we've lost in life.
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Do you know what I mean?
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Yes.
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S… Speaker 1 (Session 2 Audio)
Another moment where a staff member could basically leave.
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Right.
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Because of an unhappy environment.
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So it's just how
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it is.
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S… Speaker 1 (Session 2 Audio)
Yeah.
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So it's a bit,
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yeah, and I don't like the thought of that.

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