Insta live with Nivea

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   অধ্যায় 1: Hello. Can everybody hear me fine? 62s · Speaker 1

   Hello. Can everybody hear me fine? This is my first live. I'm just testing this right now. Hello. Hello. Good to see yaar. I thought I didn't know how many people will be in the first live but good to see that at least a few of you have joi…

2. 1:31

   অধ্যায় 2: Okay. Yes, I can. 71s · Speaker 7

   Okay. Yes, I can. Okay. Nice. We can hear you. Perfect. Thank you. Hey, Nivia. Hi. Okay. That's great. i'm doing it for the first time as well so hopefully it goes great first time for the both of us let's see yeah you can hear me clearly r…

3. 2:42

   অধ্যায় 3: So I think we have a few people here and more will join. 66s · Speaker 4

   So I think we have a few people here and more will join. I was just trying to see if there is a way to just add a sticker or something here. Is there? I don't know. No, never mind. Okay. So in case anybody has joined who doesn't know what t…

4. 3:48

   অধ্যায় 4: that's crazy actually yeah So yeah, I'm really glad that we are finally getting to do this public chat. 71s · Speaker 3

   that's crazy actually yeah So yeah, I'm really glad that we are finally getting to do this public chat. The topic for today, as we have decided, is around self -awareness and patterns. And why do self -aware people also repeat the same patt…

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   অধ্যায় 5: same type of people in your life you'll be having the same fights so it's important to have that clarity so self -awareness is very important but again it doesn't stop at self -awareness it there's more to it but that's the first step that's definitely the first step yes yeah but how would you tell like you know i think uh i'm educated my friends are educated and we would like to think that we are self -aware but how would you even tell if you're self -aware or not i don't know see if you're able to question yourself if you know your patterns now patterns look like um if you can tell that if i give you an example if you've been in the dating pool right and you're not able to get good partner right have you ever tried to question yourself that why are you not able to attract the type of love you're looking or the partner you're looking so if you don't know if you're in the limbo you're like i don't know what keeps happening why am i like why all my relationships are failing that means you're not self -aware you haven't asked the right kind of questions that needs to be asked right so it's important that you ask yourself What is happening? 299s · Speaker 1

   same type of people in your life you'll be having the same fights so it's important to have that clarity so self -awareness is very important but again it doesn't stop at self -awareness it there's more to it but that's the first step that'…

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   অধ্যায় 6: person for this long even though you knew that this was not their person you know so the problem so the it's i wouldn't say the problem is then the pattern lies in them right so if they're not able to see why are they entertaining the same person then there's no point like yes if if they do see that the person um that they attract they're not their person and then they they decide that okay i do not want to be with this person anymore and they move on that means they know what they want right so then there's no problem there the problem only lies it's only those people who don't know when to say no yeah you know okay and when to not entertain yes I see a comment here from Nakul that seems very relevant for this one. 299s · Speaker 2

   person for this long even though you knew that this was not their person you know so the problem so the it's i wouldn't say the problem is then the pattern lies in them right so if they're not able to see why are they entertaining the same …

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   অধ্যায় 7: I can hear you. 303s · Speaker 1

   I can hear you. I don't know. What did I do? What did you do? I was actually checking if I can see comments. Oh, okay. Holy shit. I don't know how to get back. Can you leave it and then I add you again? Yes, please. Sorry. No, it's fine. Yo…

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   অধ্যায় 8: you're not focusing on oh i need a partner i need a partner because if you if you have that focus and if you have that very like um if you have a mindset of like no i need a partner right now you're you're coming from a place of desperation and you and that energy shows off that comes off and people people see that and then the other person who is sitting across you on a day they'd be like okay this person is like so desperate to be in a relationship so bad yeah they naturally that they they want to repel they they it doesn't work for them because nobody wants to be in a relationship where the other person feels like they need you it's more like a want yeah right they they they should want you not need you in a way that oh i'm lonely please help me be with me So A, they have their own life. 83s · Speaker 1

   you're not focusing on oh i need a partner i need a partner because if you if you have that focus and if you have that very like um if you have a mindset of like no i need a partner right now you're you're coming from a place of desperation…

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   অধ্যায় 9: agree with you yeah okay um but i do you think that knowing these patterns that you know uh and being this patient is easy How difficult is it? 84s · Speaker 2

   agree with you yeah okay um but i do you think that knowing these patterns that you know uh and being this patient is easy How difficult is it? Because I think a lot of people that I know who are in these positions are just extremely frustr…

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    অধ্যায় 10: Yeah. Because usually it comes down to. 116s · Speaker 3

    Yeah. Because usually it comes down to. They have their nervous system cannot identify the difference between familiar and good. Now, they usually person who keeps going back to the same people, like same person who's emotionally unavailabl…

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    অধ্যায় 11: Do you think that there is a framework that people can use to Tell if they are actually doing this kind of a work or not. 302s · Speaker 2

    Do you think that there is a framework that people can use to Tell if they are actually doing this kind of a work or not. Because I think, I strongly think that everybody likes to think that they're doing this kind of a work. You know, that…

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    অধ্যায় 12: So their automatic response in that moment is to get angry. 74s · Speaker 4

    So their automatic response in that moment is to get angry. That is a pattern you're saying. And for that person to... even do something about it is to first of all understand that this is my automatic reaction and this is something that I'…

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    অধ্যায় 13: like, okay, first acknowledge. 300s · Speaker 3

    like, okay, first acknowledge. Okay. Why am I getting angry? Yeah. Something to get angry. Okay. If there was something to get angry, I understand. Okay. Yeah. If you're getting angry, but you're using foul language now, you're yelling, you…

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    অধ্যায় 14: There are some comments, but not too many. 64s · Speaker 1

    There are some comments, but not too many. I think somebody's writing, yes, your emotions are valid, but your behavior isn't always justified. Absolutely true. 100%. To break the pattern, I always ask whether I'm acting out of old patterns …

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    অধ্যায় 15: feel so sad i can't see literally yeah i also feel sad about that if anybody knows how Nivia can see the comments because I can see and Nivia cannot and it was started by me can you please help us with that also that's crazy yeah okay we'll fix it in the next one don't worry okay cool so the first one that I wanted to discuss with you one second yeah so somebody had these are the stories people sent you a couple of them yes so i had put up a story around uh if if if people know their own patterns and if they are not able to solve it uh and you know if they want to share these kind of patterns yeah yeah so somebody had reached out and said that i always fall for beauty and temptation And this is somebody I'm assuming that who's in the process of, you know, getting married and wants to get married. 303s · Speaker 2

    feel so sad i can't see literally yeah i also feel sad about that if anybody knows how Nivia can see the comments because I can see and Nivia cannot and it was started by me can you please help us with that also that's crazy yeah okay we'll…

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    অধ্যায় 16: then eventually like we can we can proceed with breaking that pattern um i think is the same person um still in the life i don't know but i'm pretty sure he's not gonna tell i don't know actually like i would ask this question to him like is there something more that he's seeing from beautiful women because there is he is He needs to sit with himself and ask that question to himself and get to the bottom of it first. 300s · Speaker 2

    then eventually like we can we can proceed with breaking that pattern um i think is the same person um still in the life i don't know but i'm pretty sure he's not gonna tell i don't know actually like i would ask this question to him like i…

17. 47:15

    অধ্যায় 17: blueprint to keep you safe and alive and and we are like whatever the age of the person is let's say he's 30 he's 30 and he's been he's alive so the nervous so for nervous system it did it's dropped pretty well to keep you safe and alive by using that blueprint so it doesn't care if you're happy at 30 or now so so how do we change that we change that by giving new set of patterns to our nervous system but nervous system is just not going to be like okay oh there are new patterns so let's use that Because it doesn't trust that. 88s · Speaker 1

    blueprint to keep you safe and alive and and we are like whatever the age of the person is let's say he's 30 he's 30 and he's been he's alive so the nervous so for nervous system it did it's dropped pretty well to keep you safe and alive by…

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    অধ্যায় 18: works yeah i think um i would think that in a situation where somebody is not able to get over somebody right specifically in that situation i think it's a lot about their own self -worth because the world is moving on you know that person itself is probably moving on they're not even thinking about you and you're still stuck on that one person i think it's a lot to do with that you're not valuing your own time your own person and your own you know self enough to give yourself a chance to be happy again right i mean i think that it's a lot to do with self -worth here Yep. 303s · Speaker 2

    works yeah i think um i would think that in a situation where somebody is not able to get over somebody right specifically in that situation i think it's a lot about their own self -worth because the world is moving on you know that person …

19. 53:47

    অধ্যায় 19: the things that are important is like is he kind is he loyal it's does he has or emotional intelligence or um is he self -aware the basics of all right yeah and these are the things that you should be looking for yeah and and there could be a non -negotiable like your religion like if you say that i i only want to date someone of my own religion that's a non -negotiable and you know that you're not gonna but what happens is if you don't know that's your non -negotiable you end up falling for someone then you're like oh my god like i can't i can't be with them because she's from a different religion and i'm like why didn't why didn't you think of it before yeah like because you were too desperate to be in a relationship With this person, you were too lonely. 95s · Speaker 1

    the things that are important is like is he kind is he loyal it's does he has or emotional intelligence or um is he self -aware the basics of all right yeah and these are the things that you should be looking for yeah and and there could be…

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    অধ্যায় 20: has a counter to this and basically a follow -up question and i think we're going to end after this one um so he's saying that i realize my values but i sort of find myself questioning and re -evaluating my non -negotiables to make it work yeah if you're if you keep If you're going back and forth with your non -negotiable, it's not a non -negotiable anymore. 283s · Speaker 2

    has a counter to this and basically a follow -up question and i think we're going to end after this one um so he's saying that i realize my values but i sort of find myself questioning and re -evaluating my non -negotiables to make it work …