1779802325694
May 26, 2026 13:33
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I was called in to do a mediation where it was
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a cross -cultural and gender issue both.
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There was a physician from a country where there was extremely high power
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distance between the male and the female.
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He was also,
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as a physician,
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and I say this with all due respect to physicians,
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there is a hierarchy between physicians and nurses.
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So there was the hierarchy of culture and there was a hierarchy
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of position.
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And he had made the workplace so difficult that
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the nurses,
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primarily women,
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had said,
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we're going to file a claim for hostile work environment.
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This is like constructive termination.
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There's discrimination here.
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And they were really, really upset.
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And this happened to be a situation that was a proactive mediation
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rather than waiting until grievances and everything.
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I walked in and he said,
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I know why you're here.
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I said,
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what am I here for?
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He says, you're here to tell me that men and women are equal.
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And it took every fiber of my being not to say,
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you betcha.
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And I said,
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no, that's not why I'm here.
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He says, really?
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I said,
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no, you have the power here to make one of three decisions.
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One of those decisions is that you can continue to believe what you
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want to believe and you can behave the way you have been behaving
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with the nurses,
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in which case your decision will be that you're choosing not to work
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here anymore because the way that you're working with the nurses right now doesn't
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meet the employee guidelines within this medical facility.
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And you have the power to make that decision.
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Another decision that you have power to make is that you can continue
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to believe what you want to believe.
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but you change your behavior.
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And your behavior becomes something that does meet the
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employee guidelines,
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and then you've made the decision to stay here.
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And you can also choose to change your belief and change your behavior,
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in which case you've also made the decision to stay here.
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So it's really all up to you.
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You have all the power.
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Now,
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it's not fighting the power,
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it's taking the power,
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working with it,
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and...
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giving it back rather than saying,
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look, Bucko,
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I'm sorry, but you don't get to make these rules and what you believe is wrong,
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which is not my job and it's not my place and it's his culture and it's
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his belief.
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So he said a little what we call zinger,
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thank you.
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I will talk to people that I respect.
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And I said,
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and again,
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Take the breath get centered and I said I think that's a great idea and I
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said how long would you like to have and he said I'd like to have a week I said I think
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we can work with that comes back a week later and he says I've talked to people I
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respect I said terrific glad that happened so what did you decide
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and He said I've chosen
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I've chosen number two.
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I'm going to believe what I want to believe,
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but I'm going to change my behavior.
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And I said,
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terrific.
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You have just solved your problem.
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I'm getting up and walking out.
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And then he says,
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Mrs.
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Meierding, which is the first time he had addressed to me by name.
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And I turned around and I said,
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yes.
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And he said, would you mind staying here and helping me know
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how to change my behavior in a better way?
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And we sat there for two and a half hours.
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If I had fought that power,
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if I tried to change that power,
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if I tried to change that cultural belief,
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I would have lost him.
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And my job isn't therapy,
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and my job isn't to try to change him overnight.
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And I am one of those people that believes that by changing behavior,
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you can eventually change belief.
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